Playlist teacher guide - Sexting

Playlist information

Playlist summary

This playlist focuses on sexting and explores issues of consent and respectful behaviour in relation to sharing and receiving sexts and nudes.

Playlist purpose

The content of the playlist supports students to:

  • Understand how decisions about sharing intimate images can be made using the Field Model
  • Understand when behaviour in relation to sexts becomes disrespectful or abusive
  • Develop skills and strategies required to resist pressure to share intimate images
  • Develop the skills needed to negotiate with a partner to agree on shared rules for sharing sexts.

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Learning objectives

  • Understand the legal and ethical implications of using technologies and social media platforms to establish, maintain and manage relationships.
  • Understand that people have rights and responsibilities when using online communication platforms and tools to interact with others.
  • Understand the potential risks and consequences of sharing personal information and intimate images online, both with and without consent.

Key messages

  • The use of online communication technologies has changed the way people interact, including how they interact in intimate relationships.
  • Everyone needs to know their rights and responsibilities and understand the role of consent and the impact of coercion when sharing and receiving intimate images and personal information.
  • Sharing personal information or intimate images with others through social media platforms and online technologies requires consent and trust.
  • There are clear and serious consequences if these laws are not understood and are broken.

Year level(s) appropriate for

Year 9, Year 10, Year 11, Year 12

Australian curriculum links

Plan, rehearse and evaluate options (including CPR and first aid) for managing situations where their own or others’ health, safety and wellbeing may be at short or long-term risk.

Investigate how empathy and ethical decision making contribute to respectful relationships.

Propose, practise and evaluate responses in situations where external influences may impact on their ability to make healthy and safe choices.

Evaluate factors that shape identities and critically analyse how individuals impact the identities of others.

Evaluate situations and propose appropriate emotional responses and then reflect on possible outcomes of different responses.

Media items

Sexting

Type: Video.

Duration: 3 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Sexting does happen in some intimate relationships. It’s important to understand the serious legal risks and long term consequences, both in terms of the laws that apply in your state or territory, and the potential impacts on your personal privacy.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Have you ever shared an image of yourself via technology? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
  2. Question number 2. Have you ever received an image of somebody else via technology? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    People have been sharing images of themselves for a long time. Previously it has been through polaroids or photographs where there was only one copy, so it was easy to keep track of who the image was shown to and where it was kept. Widespread use of technology now means that we can share images of ourselves with many different people and we can have multiple copies of the same image.

    Technology makes controlling who sees and shares images of ourselves much more difficult and raises the risk of people seeing our photos that we don’t want to see them. To explore these concepts further, discuss the following questions:

    • What decisions should you make about taking and sharing images of yourself?
    • How can you control who gets to see images you take of yourself?
    • What kinds of social norms and rules would you like to see everyone follow when it comes to sharing images online?

     

Why sext?

Type: Page.

Duration: 4 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Some people choose to sext. Creating, possessing or sharing nude images of people under 18 may be a crime, even if it’s a nude selfie. If you choose to sext you should be aware of the risks, be 100% comfortable and freely agree without any external pressure.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. How does your digital identity compare to your IRL identity? Answers
    1. a.They are both exactly the same
    2. b.There are some similarities
    3. c.They are both totally different
    Discussion points:

    Often our digital identity can look very different to our real-world self. Our digital persona can be curated to seek approval from our online friends (likes, comments, shares). We often edit our daily lives to only include the parts that we know will get a positive reaction from our online networks.  As humans we can crave positive attention and getting likes and positive comments from our social media posts can be addictive.

    To explore this concept further, discuss the following questions with the group:

    • Why do you think people edit their online identity to make their daily lives seem more exciting?
    • How does it make you feel if you post something online that you expect to get lots of likes and you only get a small number of positive reactions to it?
    • What sorts of things that you post get the most positive reactions online?
  2. Question number 2. Do you think there are double standards for males and females when it comes to sending and receiving sexts? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    There is often social pressure involved in the decision to sext, and this pressure can be different depending on our gender. For males, it might be the pressure to have girls sending you photos to prove to friends that girls are basically throwing themselves at you. For females, it might be the pressure not to seem like a “prude” or even just the pressure to look or behave like your friends do. To explore these concepts further, discuss the following questions with the group:

    • How does the pressure to send sexts differ for males and females?
    • What are the social implications for females and males if a sext is shared beyond the original recipient?

    How can we challenge the double standards that exist in society about the sending and receiving of sexts?

Sending and receiving sexts

Type: Page.

Duration: 3 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Sexting should be respectful, consensual, legal and private. When it’s not these things, it could be harassment, abuse and possibly illegal.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Do you think sending a sext to someone you know is risky? Answers
    1. a.Yes, very risky
    2. b.Maybe a little bit risky
    3. c.No, it’s not risky at all
  2. Question number 2. Would the rules around sexting be the same for someone you have known for a while compared to someone you have only just met? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    Whenever you share intimate information or images with someone, there is always some risk involved. This risk is heightened if the image is digital as it’s much easier to share. That’s why it is so important to talk about sexting and agree to some shared rules about what is OK and what is not OK when it comes to sexting each other. To explore this concept further, discuss the following questions with the group:

    • How might the rules differ for someone you have known for a while and someone you have only just met?
    • What rules would you insist on before you sent an intimate image to someone else?
    • What rules would you want to have if someone was sending intimate images to you?
    • How could you reduce the risk if you want to send a sext to someone?
    • How could you initiate a conversation about rules with someone who you had a crush on? Who you have recently met online but don’t know in person?

Consensual sexting

Type: Page.

Duration: 3 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Consent applies to sexting, just as it applies to any other shared physically intimate activity. Let’s look at how the Field Model can be used to manage a shared relationship decision like sexting.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Have you ever received an unsolicited pic? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    When you receive an unsolicited image from someone else it can make you feel uncomfortable, particularly if you know the person but are not in an intimate relationship with them. To explore these concepts further, discuss the following questions:

    • How might you feel if you received an unsolicited nude?
    • Does the way you feel differ if the image is of a person you know rather than a stranger?
    • What is the best way to respond to the unsolicited image if you don’t want to receive any more?
    • How can you get help if the person is constantly sending unsolicited pics and they won’t stop even though you have asked them to?

Scenario: set some ground rules

Type: Page.

Duration: 2 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: It’s important to establish rules and expectations of how sexting will work with a partner. In this scenario, a trusting and caring relationship allows this couple to negotiate and agree on what can be sent and what happens to the sexts once they’re sent. The Field Model helps work through key decision points.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. If your partner sends you a nude pic, is it OK for you to send them one without asking? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    Each time you are contemplating sending a nude pic it is a new decision on The Field Model. Just because your partner was a yes on The Field Model for sending you a sext, doesn’t mean they are automatically a Yes for you sending them a sext. You need to Stop, Ask and Listen and find out where they are on the Field Model rather than make the decision for them.

    To explore this concept further, discuss the following questions with the group:

    • Why is it a good idea to always Ask before sending a nude?
    • What things can go wrong if you send a nude without asking if the person wants it?

Scenario: no screenshots or saves

Type: Page.

Duration: 2 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Sexting can go wrong even when there are clear rules. In this scenario, an accidental breach of trust could cause real problems in the relationship. The Field Model helps work through key decision points.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. If you were in Alex’s shoes, would you tell Lucy? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
  2. Question number 2. Who is to blame for Rem seeing Lucy’s nude pic? Answers
    1. a.Alex
    2. b.Lucy
    3. c.Rem
    Discussion points:

    Although Alex and Lucy had very clear rules about the sharing of images, Lucy’s nude pic was still seen by someone else. Lucy shared the image expecting that she could trust Alex to not show it to anyone else. Although Alex didn’t knowingly share Lucy’s image with other people, she did choose to view the image in a public place and that lead to Rem being able to see the pic.

    The reality is that it’s not helpful to focus on assigning blame in these situations. What is important is to work out how to manage the situation in a respectful way. Alex’s decision to tell Lucy what has happened regardless of the possible consequences demonstrates honesty and respect for Lucy, which are key aspects of a quality relationship.

    • If you were in Alex’s position how would you deal with this situation?
    • If you were in Lucy’s position, how do you think you would feel when Alex told you about what happened with Rem?
    • If you were in Lucy’s position, how would you feel next time you saw Rem? What would you say to Rem to try to make the situation more comfortable?

NUDES: How can I support someone whose photo…

Type: Video.

Duration: 3 minutes.

Source: Project Rockit. ()

Summary: When a nude is shared without consent, it can feel like a terrible violation of privacy and trust. Finding ways to provide support to the person IN the photo makes a huge difference in what can be a traumatic time.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Do you know the laws around sharing nudes? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
  2. Question number 2. Do you know what steps you could take to support a friend who had a nude shared? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    Sometimes when private photos are leaked, blame can be aimed at the person in the photo. The most important point to remember is that the person who actually leaked the photo is the one that should be blamed. Non-consensual sharing is disrespectful and may be illegal.

    • What are the laws in your state and territory around sharing nudes?
    • Are the laws different in other states around Australia? Could this be problematic if you are sharing nudes with someone from a state with different laws?
    • Do you think the sexting laws are effective and fair? How could they be improved?
    • How do you think we could create supportive cultures for those whose privacy has been violated?

Wrap-up

Type: Page.

Duration: 2 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: A quick wrap up of the Sexting playlist.

Activities and extras

The conversations generated through engaging with this playlist could be built upon and reinforced using role play scenarios or group activities where students practise and refine strategies for:

  • asking and responding honestly to requests for intimate images
  • checking in with the other person about their wishes and concerns about sharing intimate images
  • challenging assumptions that are based on general rules about what you should share with your partner.

Another interesting resource that you may like to view and watch with your students is the following from TED:

https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_adele_hasinoff_how_to_practice_safe_sexting#t-216848