Playlist teacher guide - Relationships

Playlist information

Playlist summary

This playlist explores relationships and how The Field Model can be a framework to support negotiating and finding shared compromises when establishing relationships.

Playlist purpose

The content of the playlist supports students to:  

  • Explore the different types of relationships and how all relationships are unique to the individuals involved.
  • Understand that sometimes you won’t agree with your partner and that’s when it’s important to be able to manage conflict and negotiate a compromise that suits both parties.

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Learning objectives

  • Be able to differentiate between respectful and disrespectful relationships.
  • Identify a range of respectful behaviours that can occur in relationships (including communication, trust and equality).
  • Propose strategies for establishing and maintaining respectful relationships.

Key messages

  • Communication, trust and equality are important aspects of respectful relationships.
  • Relationships aren’t always easy and sometimes go through hard times but respect is still important, even in difficult times.
  • Respect is still required, even if a relationship has ended.
  • Each individual needs to be responsible for their actions in relationships, including taking positive steps to rectify disrespectful behaviour, seeking or providing help or support, or safely ending disrespectful relationships.

Year level(s) appropriate for

Year 10, Year 11, Year 12

Australian curriculum links

Evaluate situations and propose appropriate emotional responses and then reflect on possible outcomes of different responses.

Investigate how empathy and ethical decision making contribute to respectful relationships.

Media items

Respect in a relationship

Type: Page.

Duration: 4 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Maybe you’ve met someone new, or you’ve started to see someone familiar in a new way. How do you manage the excitement of a new relationship and set down a healthy foundation for future happiness for both people?

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Do external influences impact how people behave in relationships? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    When we start a new relationship it is important to establish some ground rules about how we want the relationship to evolve. This involves negotiation and shared agreements about the roles each partner will fulfil in the relationship and the expectations of both partners to ensure that the relationship is equal and respectful. There are external influences that can impact on the expectations of partner’s in a relationship. To discuss these external influences further, ask the following questions:

    • What expectations exist about how males and females should behave in a relationship?
    • How are these expectations formed?
    • How can we challenge these expectations to ensure that our relationships are equal and respectful?

Relationships and the Field Model

Type: Page.

Duration: 4 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Relationships are an ongoing series of shared decisions - some minor, some potentially life-changing. The relationship Field Model provides a framework for respectfully working through shared relationship decisions.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Can a relationship be healthy and respectful if one person makes the majority of the decisions in a relationship? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    Shared decision making is an important element of a respectful relationship. It is important that both partners feel they have input into shared decisions and that their opinion and needs are met.

    To unpack this further, explore the YNIDK playlist to see how the Field Model can be used to make respectful shared decisions.

Scenario: define the relationship

Type: Page.

Duration: 2 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: Is it ever OK to break up via text message or social media? How would you feel if it happened to you?

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Do you think Maddy made a respectful decision? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    Discussion points:

    Although it might have been easier to use the distance provided by social media to make breaking the news to Charlie easier, the respectful thing to do was to be honest with both Keegan and Charlie and to tell Charlie in person rather than just send a text.

    To unpack this scenario further, discuss the following questions:

    • Is it ever OK to break up via text message or social media?
    • What strategies can you use to ensure that when you end a relationship it is respectful?

Why do we love? A philosophical enquiry…

Type: Video.

Duration: 5 minutes.

Source: TED-Ed. ()

Summary: If romantic love has a purpose, neither science nor psychology has discovered it yet – but over the course of history, some of our most respected philosophers have put forward some intriguing theories. Watch the video to learn of some philosophical perspectives on why we love.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Do you believe there is a higher purpose for why humans fall in love? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.I don’t know
    Discussion points:

    There are many theories about why humans fall in love and enter into relationships. Some theories focus on the need to procreate to ensure the survival of the human race. Other theories centre around the need to feel whole and to share life’s experiences with a significant other. To explore the purpose for establishing and maintaining intimate relationships discuss the following questions:

    • What other theories are there in literature for why humans fall in love?
    • What is your theory for why humans fall in love?

Conflict and compromise

Type: Page.

Duration: 3 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: No two people will agree about everything all of the time. All healthy and respectful relationships will inevitably experience conflict at some point when managing shared decisions. And a compromise might be needed to progress past the conflict. The Field Model can be used as a quick checkpoint to make sure they we are not acting in a way that may be disrespectful.

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Do you think the Field Model provides you with a good framework to follow when making decisions, negotiating conflict and coming up with compromises in your relationships?  Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    The Field Model provides us with a framework to make positive, respectful decisions within our relationships. The zones with their accompanying rules provide a structure to guide our decision-making processes. It can be used as a quick checkpoint to make sure they we are not acting in a way that may be disrespectful. As students engage with the following media items, they will unpack the nuances and considerations for each of the zones. 

Money commentary

Type: Page.

Duration: 5 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: What can we learn when we apply the Field Model to the Money scene? We might find a rule break or a line move, but could this also just be a bad relationship?

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Should Ruben have handled the argument differently? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.I don’t know
    Discussion points:

    Having read the notes, do students think Ruben should have acted differently? If so, how? (And what could he have done to prevent getting into this situation in the first place?) For instance, should he have sold the laptop at a loss, saved up the remainder and gone on the holiday? If they think he handled it correctly, how would they justify that? If being correct meant the relationship breaking-up, are they okay with that?

  2. Question number 2. Should Rachel have handled the argument differently? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.I don’t know
    Discussion points:

    Do students think Rachel should have acted differently? If so, how? Should she have respected Ruben’s desire for a laptop? Should she have accommodated his strategy for getting a credit card? Or is she right that they had an agreement, he broke it, and the fact that he is unwilling to acknowledge that or try to make it up to her is a sign that they shouldn’t be together.

  3. Question number 3. Can you think of strategies you could use in a relationship to avoid being blindsided, or blindsiding someone else? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    Discussion points:

    If you can’t think of any strategies, why not? Is it hard to imagine the situation? Or you can’t think of a way to stop it? Why do people blindside each other at all? What’s really the problem? And what would be solutions? For instance, checking in, listening to what the other person is saying, and responding to that—even if it means you can’t get everything you want.

A Couples Therapist Explains Iconic …

Type: Video.

Duration: 7 minutes.

Source: BuzzFeedVideo. ()

Summary: All relationships look different and there is no single recipe for a perfect relationship. Often we measure or model our own relationships on ones we see on TV or in films, but is this wise?

Survey questions:

  1. Question number 1. Do you believe that relationships aren’t easy and that difficult times will happen in all relationships? Answers
    1. a.Yes
    2. b.No
    3. c.Maybe
    Discussion points:

    These iconic movie and TV scenes depict the diversity of relationships and the different types of connections that people can develop in a relationship. It is important to understand that each relationship is unique to the two individuals. There is no single recipe for a perfect relationship, however, if both partners trust and respect the other person then that is the first step to a healthy and respectful relationship.

    To unpack this concept further, discuss the following questions:

    • What other iconic film or TV relationships do you think depict healthy and respectful relationships?
    • What makes your relationships and those of the people around you unique?

Relationships wrap-up

Type: Page.

Duration: 3 minutes.

Source: The Good Society.

Summary: A quick wrap-up of the Relationships playlist.

Activities and extras

The conversations generated through engaging with this playlist could be built upon and reinforced using role play scenarios or group activities where students practise and refine strategies for:  

  • asking and responding honestly in a situation of conflict 
  • checking in with the other person about what their needs are and suggesting potential compromises

To further explore why some relationships work and others don’t, ask students to explore the TedTalk by Helen Fisher that explores why we fall in love and why we cheat.