Chapter 3 - Situations Subchapter: Sexting

Wrap-up

Sexting is sexy messaging – texts, images, videos.

  • Some people choose to sext and send nudes for self-expression, to boost self-confidence, increase sexual rapport, and to initiate, develop and manage relationships.
  • Sexting must be a decision a person makes for themselves, without pressure, bullying or harassment from others.

 

Consent applies to sexting, just as it applies to any other shared physically intimate activity.

  • If something is unsolicited it means no-one asked for it.
  • Sending an unsolicited message, pic or video to someone means you are doing something to another person without their consent.
  • If unsolicited sexting is done repeatedly, then it’s harassment.

 

For sexting to be a positive shared activity it should be:

  • respectful
  • consensual
  • legal and
  • private.

 

Image-based abuse

  • Image-based abuse occurs when intimate, nude or sexual images or videos are taken or shared without the consent of the person shown in the images.
  • Sharing an image or video without consent is a form of moving the line.

 

Sexting risks

Sexting risks:

  • once an explicit digital image of you exists you can never know where it will end up or who will see it
  • there are laws about sharing intimate images and breaking them is serious
  • intimate images and videos can be used to pressure or coerce a person into doing something against their will.

 

Getting Help

If you are being pressured to send an intimate image or video against your will, talk to a friend or a parent, guardian, teacher – any adult you trust.

The eSafety Commissioner can help you with the removal of intimate images and videos that have been posted online.

Visit the eSafety website to learn more.

 

If you receive an unsolicited intimate image or video

  • If you don’t know the sender block them without responding.
  • If you know the sender, delete it without sharing and make it clear you don’t want to receive any more unsolicited sexts.
  • If it is someone from school, you can contact the school.
  • If you are under 16 and an adult is sending you naked images, that’s a crime and you can report the matter to the police or ask a parent or guardian for help.