Scenario: Hooking up 2
Remember Elise and Mark?
After a great first date, Elise invited Mark back to her place for food and drinks. They ate and drank then ended up in Elise’s bedroom to watch a movie.
Elise is drunk but seems to be indicating by her body language that she wants to have sex with Mark. Mark is keen and decides to go to the bathroom before things get too heavy.
When Mark returns to the bedroom, Elise is asleep. She stirs when he sits on the bed and reaches out for him. Before he’d left the room, it had seemed pretty clear they were going to have sex and nothing’s changed, right?
ELISE CAN CONSENT TO HAVE SEX?
Mark is certain Elise wants to have sex, even if she’s too drunk and sleepy to actually say YES. She was all over him a few minutes ago and can’t possibly have changed her mind in the short time he was in the bathroom.
Mark starts to remove Elise’s clothes. Her jeans are tight, and it takes a bit of effort for him to pull them off. Elise hasn’t opened her eyes since he got back from the bathroom, but Mark doesn’t think she’s fully asleep. He’s sure she knows what he’s doing and isn’t trying to stop him.
YOU CANNOT GAIN CONSENT FROM SOMEONE IF THEY ARE AFFECTED BY ALCOHOL OR DRUGS.
You can’t ‘have sex’ with someone without gaining their consent.
has sex with rapes Elise
Things that happened because Mark raped Elise:
- Mark committed rape
- Elise told her best friend who went with her to report the rape to the police
- Elise stopped dating, stopped trusting and stopped socialising.